Ok, I know it's the most stressful time of the year for Mam's and Dad's! There is so much to do, so many presents to buy and all the bills still have to be paid, but if we're still wrapping presents, we are still here able to do it. And that's got to be a good thing?
2016 was a tough year for all. I personally found since January 1st till now a challenging year. There were so many things that I had to focus on doing well these last twelve months, being a kind Wife, a patient Mother, a trusting child of God, a loyal friend and family member and a good neighbor. And all this with the added stresses of everyday living with health and financial challenges, like you all out there. It was a slippery slope of learned behavior I can admit! Because that is what life's about, making mistakes and learning from them. We all know when we do something awful, we cringe and think, 'I'll never do that again!' And you don't, because the guilt kills you! My own conscience is my strict teacher!
Many friends and family have passed away this year and last, some way before their time. I lost my two dogs Skye and Sully who I miss every day, so I can only imagine the pain of losing a child or a partner for ever.
I think of my own Dad who was powerless of his own demise ten years ago so he surrendered to God, even though he wasn't ready. He was just beginning to enjoy life. He hadn't made all his amends. But his time was up. So, I look at his life and try and learn from it. He may not have thought that he had achieved much in his life, but he did. He was a Dad, so he was a teacher. And he gave some great lessons! I like to think of him now enjoying Christmas in Heaven in a forever peace, which is a wonderful state of mind to be in, Peace.
One of the best things that I did this year? Was organizing the Carol service over in the horse stables with all of the children happily singing carols in aid of the homeless. Another mammy who helped me had so recently lost her own daughter, yet she finds comfort in helping others.
The kids were so happy to do their bit in raising toiletries for the Simon Community who will now be able to provide sanitary items for the people who live on the streets. It's not going to save these poor people but it may just save the kids who sang for them.
To teach your child to give to others is such a valuable thing. To help others without question.
So maybe Christmas is coming faster for a reason? At Christmas time, people make more effort in giving and after January rolls in, then February, it's all about us again and holidays and living.
And there's nothing wrong with that either! Life is for living.
My Mam says all the time to me and my sisters, 'Be positive, be grateful!'And she's right, it may not change your circumstances, but it will help your state of life and mind.
Life is hard work for everybody but I suppose if it was easy we might get bored. I have never been bored! I sometimes look to the sky and shout, 'Can I be bored please for just one minute!?"
But I am beginning to laugh at myself. I am funny! I do stupid things alot!
I think that is the biggest mistake I made so far in my life. That it is a serious life.
It's not a serious life and it's not a joke either,
'It's a wonderful life!'
Jean xxx
Thursday 22 December 2016
Friday 18 November 2016
What Dyspraxia means to me
I ran a marathon in my house this morning, or at least it feels like that. My twelve year old daughter woke me up at 5.30 this morning. It was a cold dark morning and I really wanted to stay snuggled up in bed to finish off my lovely deep sleep. Instead, I go into her room and get in beside her, lest she wakes up the whole house and to hopefully keep her in bed for another hour at least. But she's a scratcher. And the minute she's starts scratching and squirming about, I know we're up.
This will happen all the way to Christmas time because the minute she wakes, she can't help feeling excited about the festive season. And she wants to be awake lest she misses anything relating to the same.
She loves Christmas!
Probably more than Santa and the Elves themselves!
So, I take the opportunity to groom her. I'll need two hours at least so this works grand this morning before school, Friday, the last day of the week.
She is just in the middle of her third period and there is blood everywhere. She coped quite well on the discovery of a period beginning at age twelve because she knows it happens to all girls. This makes her the same, not different, which she is happy enough about.
I had noticed her body growing and changing rapidly this year and I was praying that she would be older when her period came. Although she has the same body as other twelve year old girls, her organization and management skills are still aged seven. She has Dyspraxia.
Don't get me wrong, this is not a 'poor pet' story.
Under her heading of Dyspraxia, she has comprehension and learning difficulties and hyper active behavior but because she has had a lot of help from Dyslexia teaching, Occupational therapy, Speech and language support and pony lessons since an early age, she is doing really well.
I am pretty sure that she can reach her milestones like any other child, albeit a little later than most.
So, I looked at my daughter this morning. I'm going to de-lice her hair again for the third week in a row, pretty confident I'm going to get the last of the nits that have been lurking about. She has a massive thick head of hair which is why it took as long to treat the little devils! I'm using the home remedy this morning of smothering her hair in Mayo and some extra vinegar to be sure. I have used the chemical the week previous, but this method is quite good also. It takes me about 45 minutes to fine comb her whole head which is not easy at 6.30 in the morning especially with the cries of pain from my daughter, oh yes, she has sensory issues too which is the biggest pain in the neck for me and for her too, I know. She hates the feeling of water or soap or anything on her skin. Wonderful.
Her face has the usual puberty spots and blackheads so I've found this lovely t-tree mask in the body shop and gently spread it over her face, she doesn't like that either.
Her nails are long and are caked with dirt so I trim them and her toes to her squeals of torture. I then get her pretty little pink shaver and groom her bits below and underneath her arms. She finds this very funny. (I tell her, I'm the only person who can do this for her) What next, oh yes, she has braces in and because she doesn't like to use the little interdental brushes on them I do them for her once or twice a week. This is the worse pain of all for her but as I said to her this morning, 'It's just as well that I don't fall for the crocodile tears because you would be left scruffy!'
I'm not sure I made the right decision for braces. This has added torturous work onto myself!
She also has sinus problems, but because we do a salt nasal wash each morning, she needs less antibiotics! She's pretty good at this because she knows it really helps!
So then to the shower! I scrub her thick hair twice then rinse and condition through torturous screams and then we're done. I cover her wet skin in silcocks base and then dry it off. This reduces her itchy skin.
I brush out the tangled hair adding the wonderful revlon detangling spray which really does work and she's wrapped up in her cosy dressing gown in the warm sitting room at 8.30 just in time for a good breakfast, of brown bread toast, cheese and chicken and a fresh fruit smoothie, which also helps keep her bowels regular each morning before school, which helps her feel comfortable for the day. If she's comfortable, she's able to concentrate a bit better!
Good nutrition is really important for children with learning difficulties and coupled with her omega 3,6, and 9, she's off to a good start.
I then get myself ready and pack her lunch while sipping a coffee. I have a clean uniform ready for her as because she has now started to smell, so has her clothes! By 9.10 we're all set to go to school which starts at 9.20, (after changing her pad twice and making sure it is comfortable!) I pack some wipes and pads for changes which I'm sure she takes about 20 minutes each time in the school toilet! She has a new male teacher and I'm sure he thinks she has a very weak bladder or bowel!
I do have to remind her to check the toilet seat for blood when she's finished and to make sure she wraps her old pad up and puts it in her bag. I know she will get this eventually.
She is organized and managed.
The school will then look after the rest.
I get back home and can now tackle my house, my dogs and spend some time with my other daughter who is off from college today and needs me to do a few errands with her and maybe have lunch.
And my day is gone.
I think I used to have more hours in my day when I was working full time. Or maybe I just have more things to do now that I'm close to fifty. Life seems to be busier.
I admire the women who can work and take care of their children also.
Being a mother is not for the faint hearted!
Jean xx
This will happen all the way to Christmas time because the minute she wakes, she can't help feeling excited about the festive season. And she wants to be awake lest she misses anything relating to the same.
She loves Christmas!
Probably more than Santa and the Elves themselves!
So, I take the opportunity to groom her. I'll need two hours at least so this works grand this morning before school, Friday, the last day of the week.
She is just in the middle of her third period and there is blood everywhere. She coped quite well on the discovery of a period beginning at age twelve because she knows it happens to all girls. This makes her the same, not different, which she is happy enough about.
I had noticed her body growing and changing rapidly this year and I was praying that she would be older when her period came. Although she has the same body as other twelve year old girls, her organization and management skills are still aged seven. She has Dyspraxia.
Don't get me wrong, this is not a 'poor pet' story.
Under her heading of Dyspraxia, she has comprehension and learning difficulties and hyper active behavior but because she has had a lot of help from Dyslexia teaching, Occupational therapy, Speech and language support and pony lessons since an early age, she is doing really well.
I am pretty sure that she can reach her milestones like any other child, albeit a little later than most.
So, I looked at my daughter this morning. I'm going to de-lice her hair again for the third week in a row, pretty confident I'm going to get the last of the nits that have been lurking about. She has a massive thick head of hair which is why it took as long to treat the little devils! I'm using the home remedy this morning of smothering her hair in Mayo and some extra vinegar to be sure. I have used the chemical the week previous, but this method is quite good also. It takes me about 45 minutes to fine comb her whole head which is not easy at 6.30 in the morning especially with the cries of pain from my daughter, oh yes, she has sensory issues too which is the biggest pain in the neck for me and for her too, I know. She hates the feeling of water or soap or anything on her skin. Wonderful.
Her face has the usual puberty spots and blackheads so I've found this lovely t-tree mask in the body shop and gently spread it over her face, she doesn't like that either.
Her nails are long and are caked with dirt so I trim them and her toes to her squeals of torture. I then get her pretty little pink shaver and groom her bits below and underneath her arms. She finds this very funny. (I tell her, I'm the only person who can do this for her) What next, oh yes, she has braces in and because she doesn't like to use the little interdental brushes on them I do them for her once or twice a week. This is the worse pain of all for her but as I said to her this morning, 'It's just as well that I don't fall for the crocodile tears because you would be left scruffy!'
I'm not sure I made the right decision for braces. This has added torturous work onto myself!
She also has sinus problems, but because we do a salt nasal wash each morning, she needs less antibiotics! She's pretty good at this because she knows it really helps!
So then to the shower! I scrub her thick hair twice then rinse and condition through torturous screams and then we're done. I cover her wet skin in silcocks base and then dry it off. This reduces her itchy skin.
I brush out the tangled hair adding the wonderful revlon detangling spray which really does work and she's wrapped up in her cosy dressing gown in the warm sitting room at 8.30 just in time for a good breakfast, of brown bread toast, cheese and chicken and a fresh fruit smoothie, which also helps keep her bowels regular each morning before school, which helps her feel comfortable for the day. If she's comfortable, she's able to concentrate a bit better!
Good nutrition is really important for children with learning difficulties and coupled with her omega 3,6, and 9, she's off to a good start.
I then get myself ready and pack her lunch while sipping a coffee. I have a clean uniform ready for her as because she has now started to smell, so has her clothes! By 9.10 we're all set to go to school which starts at 9.20, (after changing her pad twice and making sure it is comfortable!) I pack some wipes and pads for changes which I'm sure she takes about 20 minutes each time in the school toilet! She has a new male teacher and I'm sure he thinks she has a very weak bladder or bowel!
I do have to remind her to check the toilet seat for blood when she's finished and to make sure she wraps her old pad up and puts it in her bag. I know she will get this eventually.
She is organized and managed.
The school will then look after the rest.
I get back home and can now tackle my house, my dogs and spend some time with my other daughter who is off from college today and needs me to do a few errands with her and maybe have lunch.
And my day is gone.
I think I used to have more hours in my day when I was working full time. Or maybe I just have more things to do now that I'm close to fifty. Life seems to be busier.
I admire the women who can work and take care of their children also.
Being a mother is not for the faint hearted!
Jean xx
Thursday 10 November 2016
Depression
When you're in depression, you look too bad for the world to see you. You don't go to the doctor to tell him because he can't help. Talking doesn't help. Your mind has a flu that prevents your body working and it has to try heal itself and replenish. That's depression.
Monday 3 October 2016
Man's best friend
A lover of dogs all of my life, our family has always had one or two around us. And I have to say, they were a wonderful addition to our life. As I grew over the years, I learned more about having a dog as a pet and I was able to give them more of what they needed, love, exercise, food and plenty of family interaction. In return , I received loving, loyal pets.
When we brought our first husky into our home nine years ago, we called her Skye because of her beautiful blue eyes. She also had a sandy coloured coat. Skye was a very good puppy from the start, she house trained really well and behaved like a Royal lady in our home. She was so regal. Skye was to be the leader or Alpha female of our other dogs. She would take all their food first and all of their bones and toys. She would want the first hugs from us as she came into the kitchen each morning. She loved playing with Pongo, our King Charles, because he was clever enough to let her be boss. She constantly picked on Buster, our West Hiland terrior, because he was dumb enough to try to hold his own corner. Sadly, five years ago, those two little guys passed on and Skye had sole rights over her kingdom.
She was really cute. She loved rubber balls, to eat. It was the strangest thing, she just loved to eat rubber! Every squeaky toy or ball would soon be demolished by Skye. She would be all excited at the thoughts of her delight.
Thinking she might need a pal we brought home Storm, a seven month old huskie with one blue eye and one brown. He had a black and white coat. His owners were a young couple who were emigrating and they had given him lots of love. So we had no worries about bringing this guy among our own seven year old daughter. Storm was so funny. We definitely thought that he had ADHD because he was so hyper and anxious. He almost talked to you in a moany type howl, to let you know what he wanted. He needed lots of exercise and runs without a lead. He was so happy to be given the luxury of regular runs by the beach, in the mountains or whereever we went, that he rewarded us with great loyalty. He always checked if he could see me on our walks.
We brought our third huskie into our lives two and a half years ago. He had been on tv3 from dogs
trust looking for a home. He was the only white one of the liter and he was deaf in one ear. Of course
we had to have him and we fell immediately in love with him. We called him Solas or 'sully' for short. He was the most adorable little guy.
Skye took to him like he was her puppy and Storm was happy enough to have a new pal to play with
In the first few months, it did appear that he was deaf as he didn't seem to here us, but Yasmin and Sarah spent all their time playing with him and loving him and then it seemed he was able to here as he was able to follow instructions in the house or outside. He would here a biscuit wrapper open instantly and I was amazed as I knew he had a great eye sense.
I figured in the last while that he only had one deaf ear as they lay flat on our walks while the other stood up always on the alert.
Three huskies are very strong to handle on walks but it didn't deter me. I took them everywhere and ran them freely in the fields beside me. They loved running in the fields and chased each other around playfully. I just had to be careful they didn't knock me down as they ran back and forward around me.
They're strength would be the same as a motor bike if they hit you on full speed!
Skye was the boss and young Sully would chase her everywhere. Unfortunately he chased after her this past January into the main road from the far end of the field. I heard him Yelp in pain and I initially thought he had ran into a trap of a sort as I didn't realise they could get out into the road, but my heart ached when I walked towards his squeals and saw him hobble back into field with his leg dangling. Once he realised I saw him, he stopped where he was in obvious pain.
I had to run into the road and get him help as I couldn't carry him myself and a lovely old man and a young chap came to help me. I was devastated that my little guy was in so much pain and I feared that he would lose the leg. But thankfully, although the vet told me the leg was smashed, he did a great job in an operation and had him as good as knew in a few months. He was so cute with his bandaged leg and relished all the extra attention from Yasmin if that was possible as she loved him already so much. We left him sleep in the kitchen from then on because we didn't want the other guys to rough play with him. Each morning I came into the kitchen and he would be there wagging his tail
waiting for his hugs. I would say, 'where's the baby? Where's the baby?' He would stand up beside me
and hug my legs. When I let the other two in, they would all run for a place at my legs, delighted to see me and get a hug.
We realised in the past couple of years that Skye was a hunter. She liked to catch rabbits, cats and other small animals and one time while I was walking her in the fields, I saw her grab a baby calf into the ditch. She was just about to go at it and Sully was right behind her and Storm came too, but I let such a racket the dogs left her and the calf was able to escape unharmed. I talked the the farmer after that and he kindly told me to just keep them away during calf season. Once the calves were big enough they would be well able for the dogs.
I was very grateful and did what he asked.
I had been walking them on the lead for a good while and a lovely lad from our road also walked them fro me. They loved to see him coming. They knew he would have treats for them after their
walk.
I went back to the field this past Wednesday. The dogs were so excited and ran into the field excitedly and then that's when two of my dogs prescious lives ended.
It all happened so quickly. Skye ran off ahead of me with Sully at her heals. Storm was running and jumping rough the growth playfully. I followed the other two into the patchy field behind the secondary school. It wasn't ideal for a long run, but it was better than a walk on a lead.
I knew Skye and Sully would be way ahead me now, possibly looking for pheasant or wild rabbits. To my dismay, I saw a sheep. There had never been sheep there before and my dogs had never been in an area where there were sheep, but I knew Skye had gone for one. I could here branches breaking in the bushes before me but I didn't have the guts to in after them. I thought if they had a sheep in the last four minutes it would be too late. I took Storm home and called for help. I knew if my dogs had a sheep that they would have to be put down . But I wanted it done quickly humanely.
Instead, the farmer hit my dogs with a shovel and sent them running off scared. And it was a couple
of more hours till they were actually put down , but I know my dogs knew that something bad was going to happen to them.
I am actually an animal lover and sympathise with the poor sheep also. I explained to my heartbroken
children that unfortunately, we couldn't have our dogs if we weren't able to control them and they had become wild. And acts like that from dogs scare people. Would they turn on a newborn baby?
But, it is the saddest thing.
I feel that I failed my dogs in giving them so much freedom. The only comfort we have is knowing that while they were in our family, they were so loved and cherished.
That every moment of their life was happy and fulfilling and they gave us so much love.
Jean xxx
When we brought our first husky into our home nine years ago, we called her Skye because of her beautiful blue eyes. She also had a sandy coloured coat. Skye was a very good puppy from the start, she house trained really well and behaved like a Royal lady in our home. She was so regal. Skye was to be the leader or Alpha female of our other dogs. She would take all their food first and all of their bones and toys. She would want the first hugs from us as she came into the kitchen each morning. She loved playing with Pongo, our King Charles, because he was clever enough to let her be boss. She constantly picked on Buster, our West Hiland terrior, because he was dumb enough to try to hold his own corner. Sadly, five years ago, those two little guys passed on and Skye had sole rights over her kingdom.
She was really cute. She loved rubber balls, to eat. It was the strangest thing, she just loved to eat rubber! Every squeaky toy or ball would soon be demolished by Skye. She would be all excited at the thoughts of her delight.
Thinking she might need a pal we brought home Storm, a seven month old huskie with one blue eye and one brown. He had a black and white coat. His owners were a young couple who were emigrating and they had given him lots of love. So we had no worries about bringing this guy among our own seven year old daughter. Storm was so funny. We definitely thought that he had ADHD because he was so hyper and anxious. He almost talked to you in a moany type howl, to let you know what he wanted. He needed lots of exercise and runs without a lead. He was so happy to be given the luxury of regular runs by the beach, in the mountains or whereever we went, that he rewarded us with great loyalty. He always checked if he could see me on our walks.
We brought our third huskie into our lives two and a half years ago. He had been on tv3 from dogs
trust looking for a home. He was the only white one of the liter and he was deaf in one ear. Of course
we had to have him and we fell immediately in love with him. We called him Solas or 'sully' for short. He was the most adorable little guy.
Skye took to him like he was her puppy and Storm was happy enough to have a new pal to play with
In the first few months, it did appear that he was deaf as he didn't seem to here us, but Yasmin and Sarah spent all their time playing with him and loving him and then it seemed he was able to here as he was able to follow instructions in the house or outside. He would here a biscuit wrapper open instantly and I was amazed as I knew he had a great eye sense.
I figured in the last while that he only had one deaf ear as they lay flat on our walks while the other stood up always on the alert.
Three huskies are very strong to handle on walks but it didn't deter me. I took them everywhere and ran them freely in the fields beside me. They loved running in the fields and chased each other around playfully. I just had to be careful they didn't knock me down as they ran back and forward around me.
They're strength would be the same as a motor bike if they hit you on full speed!
Skye was the boss and young Sully would chase her everywhere. Unfortunately he chased after her this past January into the main road from the far end of the field. I heard him Yelp in pain and I initially thought he had ran into a trap of a sort as I didn't realise they could get out into the road, but my heart ached when I walked towards his squeals and saw him hobble back into field with his leg dangling. Once he realised I saw him, he stopped where he was in obvious pain.
I had to run into the road and get him help as I couldn't carry him myself and a lovely old man and a young chap came to help me. I was devastated that my little guy was in so much pain and I feared that he would lose the leg. But thankfully, although the vet told me the leg was smashed, he did a great job in an operation and had him as good as knew in a few months. He was so cute with his bandaged leg and relished all the extra attention from Yasmin if that was possible as she loved him already so much. We left him sleep in the kitchen from then on because we didn't want the other guys to rough play with him. Each morning I came into the kitchen and he would be there wagging his tail
waiting for his hugs. I would say, 'where's the baby? Where's the baby?' He would stand up beside me
and hug my legs. When I let the other two in, they would all run for a place at my legs, delighted to see me and get a hug.
We realised in the past couple of years that Skye was a hunter. She liked to catch rabbits, cats and other small animals and one time while I was walking her in the fields, I saw her grab a baby calf into the ditch. She was just about to go at it and Sully was right behind her and Storm came too, but I let such a racket the dogs left her and the calf was able to escape unharmed. I talked the the farmer after that and he kindly told me to just keep them away during calf season. Once the calves were big enough they would be well able for the dogs.
I was very grateful and did what he asked.
I had been walking them on the lead for a good while and a lovely lad from our road also walked them fro me. They loved to see him coming. They knew he would have treats for them after their
walk.
I went back to the field this past Wednesday. The dogs were so excited and ran into the field excitedly and then that's when two of my dogs prescious lives ended.
It all happened so quickly. Skye ran off ahead of me with Sully at her heals. Storm was running and jumping rough the growth playfully. I followed the other two into the patchy field behind the secondary school. It wasn't ideal for a long run, but it was better than a walk on a lead.
I knew Skye and Sully would be way ahead me now, possibly looking for pheasant or wild rabbits. To my dismay, I saw a sheep. There had never been sheep there before and my dogs had never been in an area where there were sheep, but I knew Skye had gone for one. I could here branches breaking in the bushes before me but I didn't have the guts to in after them. I thought if they had a sheep in the last four minutes it would be too late. I took Storm home and called for help. I knew if my dogs had a sheep that they would have to be put down . But I wanted it done quickly humanely.
Instead, the farmer hit my dogs with a shovel and sent them running off scared. And it was a couple
of more hours till they were actually put down , but I know my dogs knew that something bad was going to happen to them.
I am actually an animal lover and sympathise with the poor sheep also. I explained to my heartbroken
children that unfortunately, we couldn't have our dogs if we weren't able to control them and they had become wild. And acts like that from dogs scare people. Would they turn on a newborn baby?
But, it is the saddest thing.
I feel that I failed my dogs in giving them so much freedom. The only comfort we have is knowing that while they were in our family, they were so loved and cherished.
That every moment of their life was happy and fulfilling and they gave us so much love.
Jean xxx
Tuesday 5 July 2016
First Radio Interview!
Hey!
My first radio interview will be hosted by Brenda Donahue on RTE Radio 1 on Wednesday 6th July 2016 at 10pm.
It's about our success and during the Celtic Tiger and then our losses when the recession hit.
My nervous break-down,
How we coped with our family and friends support!
And how I discovered my new path of writing!
Please listen!
Jean xxx
My first radio interview will be hosted by Brenda Donahue on RTE Radio 1 on Wednesday 6th July 2016 at 10pm.
It's about our success and during the Celtic Tiger and then our losses when the recession hit.
My nervous break-down,
How we coped with our family and friends support!
And how I discovered my new path of writing!
Please listen!
Jean xxx
Thursday 28 April 2016
The Wedding!
My son's wedding day arrived at super speed on Saturday 23rd April 2016.
I was going to be 'The Mother of the Groom!' I was quite excited to tell you the truth. It's no small task being mother of the groom. I know the better title is 'Mother of the Bride!' But I have to be grateful for small pickings. And my rival, 'Mother of the Bride' is a lovely woman so we were going to sail along on the day itself like the perfectly organised pair we were.
It had been an emotional roller coaster ever since the engagement ring was placed on the fiancee all the way up till my son said 'I do!'
He's a tense lad is our son, a little bit shy and anti-social and a small bit moody, (He get's that side of his personality from his Dad!) So, as much as I was trying to be a helpful, non-pushy, non-busybody Mother, the little fecker wouldn't let me do anything! (At 49, I'm probably just too young to be Mother of the Groom! So we clashed! A lot! lol) But I trudged along like any good Irish Mother worth their salt would! With the determination of a Spirit that couldn't be broken!
For three whole weeks I cleaned my house while my hubby did the repairs and my brother in law did the painting, but I was happy with the result. Now it was ready for the day of the wedding, when our whole family would come and scruffy it up again! The hairdresser and makeup girls set up their stations. To be fair, they had their work cut out for them. My face had grown a thousand more wrinkles that week alone and my hair was a hard one to tame! But, they did it! The pair of them worked tirelessly till we were all gorgeous. Even my youngest had that much desired pageant make-up she had always desired! She was to be junior bridesmaid and she hadn't slept in weeks with excitement!
The house soon filled with friends, neighbours and relatives and the bubbly was poured. The sun came out and it was a beautiful day. Not a heatwave by no means, but Ireland always has a habit of down-pouring on newly married couples or drizzling down on already miserable mourners while burying their beloved relatives. The rain is supposed to be good luck, but really, how lucky is the bride who's beautifully styled hair has gone all frizzy from the damp? Or indeed, how lucky is the beloved dead person covered in heavy wet muck?
Well in this case the sun was lucky for all us Murray's because everybody was in great form as we headed to the church. It was indeed a beautiful ceremony with the church filled with beautiful flowers and designer guna's. (dresses in Irish!)
As I mentioned before, my youngest child is 11 and although she was delighted to be all dressed up like a bridesmaid from 'My big fat gypsy wedding', she has a few sensory difficulties. While my oldest and his beloved were exchanging vows, my little one was peeling off her eyelashes and asking me to take out her hair pins, for all the church to hear!
We had initially made bets on who would cry first, the bride or the groom, but we were all wrong! My hubby was the one sobbing into the feathers on my fascinator! I didn't cry at all. My husband said I was as hard a stone. No, I was just praying that the bride wouldn't change her mind and say no, and then I'd have the little fecker back home with me again! I was smiling happily when they had signed that registry thingy. No going back now! Yey!
And then it got very chaotic. We all legged it to the venue, which must have been pre-warned for the various personalities arriving. They welcomed us all in with smiles on their faces and prayers in their minds....
And then I vaguely remember feeling like 'Steve Martin' in that great movie, 'Father of the Bride!' I seemed to bob along all over the place mingling with our guests. I kept arriving late to all the little special moments, cutting the cake, the speeches, the first dances....
As I said before, 'The Mother of the Bride' was a great match for me and we both took to our task of 'Hosts' like fish to water. We trudged through the crowd like professional cage fighters. We matched any alcoholic with our consumption of wine. We tenderly took care of our older relatives, hurrying them out the door, less we miss any fun. We minded the younger people, in the small hours of the morning making sure they were in their own beds......
We sorted out a little fight or two as we swallowed next years alcohol allowance as well as this years!
And when we finally headed off to be bed at 5.30 in the morning, we had no pyjamas, no tooth brushes, no glasses! And I know I shared my very expensive bed with my mother and two nieces and my hubby had the pull out bed on the floor!
Sure it was great fun!
Am I sad that my son has left me for another woman? Not at all.
I now have a new daughter and a whole new family to invite to my next Doo!
Jean xxx
I was going to be 'The Mother of the Groom!' I was quite excited to tell you the truth. It's no small task being mother of the groom. I know the better title is 'Mother of the Bride!' But I have to be grateful for small pickings. And my rival, 'Mother of the Bride' is a lovely woman so we were going to sail along on the day itself like the perfectly organised pair we were.
It had been an emotional roller coaster ever since the engagement ring was placed on the fiancee all the way up till my son said 'I do!'
He's a tense lad is our son, a little bit shy and anti-social and a small bit moody, (He get's that side of his personality from his Dad!) So, as much as I was trying to be a helpful, non-pushy, non-busybody Mother, the little fecker wouldn't let me do anything! (At 49, I'm probably just too young to be Mother of the Groom! So we clashed! A lot! lol) But I trudged along like any good Irish Mother worth their salt would! With the determination of a Spirit that couldn't be broken!
For three whole weeks I cleaned my house while my hubby did the repairs and my brother in law did the painting, but I was happy with the result. Now it was ready for the day of the wedding, when our whole family would come and scruffy it up again! The hairdresser and makeup girls set up their stations. To be fair, they had their work cut out for them. My face had grown a thousand more wrinkles that week alone and my hair was a hard one to tame! But, they did it! The pair of them worked tirelessly till we were all gorgeous. Even my youngest had that much desired pageant make-up she had always desired! She was to be junior bridesmaid and she hadn't slept in weeks with excitement!
The house soon filled with friends, neighbours and relatives and the bubbly was poured. The sun came out and it was a beautiful day. Not a heatwave by no means, but Ireland always has a habit of down-pouring on newly married couples or drizzling down on already miserable mourners while burying their beloved relatives. The rain is supposed to be good luck, but really, how lucky is the bride who's beautifully styled hair has gone all frizzy from the damp? Or indeed, how lucky is the beloved dead person covered in heavy wet muck?
Well in this case the sun was lucky for all us Murray's because everybody was in great form as we headed to the church. It was indeed a beautiful ceremony with the church filled with beautiful flowers and designer guna's. (dresses in Irish!)
As I mentioned before, my youngest child is 11 and although she was delighted to be all dressed up like a bridesmaid from 'My big fat gypsy wedding', she has a few sensory difficulties. While my oldest and his beloved were exchanging vows, my little one was peeling off her eyelashes and asking me to take out her hair pins, for all the church to hear!
We had initially made bets on who would cry first, the bride or the groom, but we were all wrong! My hubby was the one sobbing into the feathers on my fascinator! I didn't cry at all. My husband said I was as hard a stone. No, I was just praying that the bride wouldn't change her mind and say no, and then I'd have the little fecker back home with me again! I was smiling happily when they had signed that registry thingy. No going back now! Yey!
And then it got very chaotic. We all legged it to the venue, which must have been pre-warned for the various personalities arriving. They welcomed us all in with smiles on their faces and prayers in their minds....
And then I vaguely remember feeling like 'Steve Martin' in that great movie, 'Father of the Bride!' I seemed to bob along all over the place mingling with our guests. I kept arriving late to all the little special moments, cutting the cake, the speeches, the first dances....
As I said before, 'The Mother of the Bride' was a great match for me and we both took to our task of 'Hosts' like fish to water. We trudged through the crowd like professional cage fighters. We matched any alcoholic with our consumption of wine. We tenderly took care of our older relatives, hurrying them out the door, less we miss any fun. We minded the younger people, in the small hours of the morning making sure they were in their own beds......
We sorted out a little fight or two as we swallowed next years alcohol allowance as well as this years!
And when we finally headed off to be bed at 5.30 in the morning, we had no pyjamas, no tooth brushes, no glasses! And I know I shared my very expensive bed with my mother and two nieces and my hubby had the pull out bed on the floor!
Sure it was great fun!
Am I sad that my son has left me for another woman? Not at all.
I now have a new daughter and a whole new family to invite to my next Doo!
Jean xxx
Thursday 24 March 2016
What is a Criminal?
There's an easy answer to this; A criminal is a person who can go into an airport and blow up and kill innocent people. They can crash into whole buildings, destroying everybody in their path. They can deprive their country of food, shelter and education leaving innocent victims to their own terrifying fates of trying to take care of their children. Criminals own their women and constantly rape and beat them.
They can blame religion for the everything that goes wrong in the World.
Basically, a criminal is a person who hungers only for his own need and is driven by a hatred for others who get in his way.
As I watched the RTE news last night on my laptop from my holiday in Florida. They were reporting a murder which happened in my home town. I listened to the words, 'The man had been a known criminal who had received stolen goods and sold cigarettes in his past.' Although the reporter skimmed over the fact that the man had paid his tax debt to our Central Assets Bureau, he didn't mention that the man had also ran a legit furniture business that he built up from his youth and was forced to sell to pay his taxes. It was one of CAB's successful witch hunt's of the day which is typical of our Irish system. Go after the little people because you'll never catch the big ones.
I happened to grow up beside this 'criminal'. I knew his parents and family really well. I can tell you, they were hard working honest people and they raised their children to work hard.
We were the working class people. People who lived week to week to feed their families and pay their bills. Our parents and grandparents came from the tenements in Dublin. We were always chasing our tail.
We were poor people.
I suppose it's hard for people of wealth and education to understand what that's like. Poor people want nice things too. They want to send their kids to college. They want nice houses and they want to go on fancy holidays. They want to be recognised in society. And you know what? Poor people are not recognised in society. They were and are still discriminated.
God rest my own father, he lost his job in the 70's last recession and it broke his heart to be poor. He wanted better. He wanted a nice car. He dreamed of travelling the world. Unfortunately he died at age 64 when the pressures of raising a big family had just released him.
Not excusing theft, but I can understand why people wanted to make an extra few bob and I certainly know there's a market out there in the poorer society who would buy nice things cheaply or indeed their much needed cigarettes.
When you are earning just enough to pay your bills and feed your family, it's hard to save money and build on it. When I was growing up and I'm only 49, it wasn't heard of to go to college. Maybe one or two girls I knew of. We were never to realise by educating yourself further, that we would have the chance of a higher earning job in our future. We had to work hard with our hands and those who could work harder and longer and were clever enough to make an extra pound were the lucky ones. But we are not all the same. And some crimes are more criminal than others.
This 'criminal' was somebody's husband, somebody's father, somebody's grandfather, somebody's brother. Somebody's son.
What's going on today in Ireland is a different kind of crime. It's more terrorism than the so called terrorism of Ireland's rebel's who lost their lives fighting for Ireland's independence.
These new murderers have no conscience nor reason. These terrorists are killing to keep their drug world their sole empire. Because of the vast amount of money they are making.
Big money makes more big money and that gives these criminals big power. They can pay the best lawyers to keep them free and the best accountants to do their books.
Nobody can catch these big criminals.
So, the RTE will report about the little guys, but these are not Criminals.
Jean xxx
They can blame religion for the everything that goes wrong in the World.
Basically, a criminal is a person who hungers only for his own need and is driven by a hatred for others who get in his way.
As I watched the RTE news last night on my laptop from my holiday in Florida. They were reporting a murder which happened in my home town. I listened to the words, 'The man had been a known criminal who had received stolen goods and sold cigarettes in his past.' Although the reporter skimmed over the fact that the man had paid his tax debt to our Central Assets Bureau, he didn't mention that the man had also ran a legit furniture business that he built up from his youth and was forced to sell to pay his taxes. It was one of CAB's successful witch hunt's of the day which is typical of our Irish system. Go after the little people because you'll never catch the big ones.
I happened to grow up beside this 'criminal'. I knew his parents and family really well. I can tell you, they were hard working honest people and they raised their children to work hard.
We were the working class people. People who lived week to week to feed their families and pay their bills. Our parents and grandparents came from the tenements in Dublin. We were always chasing our tail.
We were poor people.
I suppose it's hard for people of wealth and education to understand what that's like. Poor people want nice things too. They want to send their kids to college. They want nice houses and they want to go on fancy holidays. They want to be recognised in society. And you know what? Poor people are not recognised in society. They were and are still discriminated.
God rest my own father, he lost his job in the 70's last recession and it broke his heart to be poor. He wanted better. He wanted a nice car. He dreamed of travelling the world. Unfortunately he died at age 64 when the pressures of raising a big family had just released him.
Not excusing theft, but I can understand why people wanted to make an extra few bob and I certainly know there's a market out there in the poorer society who would buy nice things cheaply or indeed their much needed cigarettes.
When you are earning just enough to pay your bills and feed your family, it's hard to save money and build on it. When I was growing up and I'm only 49, it wasn't heard of to go to college. Maybe one or two girls I knew of. We were never to realise by educating yourself further, that we would have the chance of a higher earning job in our future. We had to work hard with our hands and those who could work harder and longer and were clever enough to make an extra pound were the lucky ones. But we are not all the same. And some crimes are more criminal than others.
This 'criminal' was somebody's husband, somebody's father, somebody's grandfather, somebody's brother. Somebody's son.
What's going on today in Ireland is a different kind of crime. It's more terrorism than the so called terrorism of Ireland's rebel's who lost their lives fighting for Ireland's independence.
These new murderers have no conscience nor reason. These terrorists are killing to keep their drug world their sole empire. Because of the vast amount of money they are making.
Big money makes more big money and that gives these criminals big power. They can pay the best lawyers to keep them free and the best accountants to do their books.
Nobody can catch these big criminals.
So, the RTE will report about the little guys, but these are not Criminals.
Jean xxx
Monday 18 January 2016
Born Bad....
I hate to admit it, but I always held a small bit of sympathy for criminals. I'd look at their sad convincing faces as a Judge would read out the guilty verdict. A lot of the time, the criminal was adamant he was innocent and I would think, Was he? I was sucked in quite easily by the cries and pleas and even their blatant denial. His life was now gone as he had to be locked up for a lot of years, not to mention the devastation of the families at the hand of his abuse.
I would have probably found him not guilty so I would make a useless judge.
I would believe his pain. Surely someone that convincing of his own sorrow and innocence couldn't kill his loved one? (Example Pistoris) Had there been no evidence, he would have surely been released.
I'd have compassion for the obvious bad start in life that formed his personality.
I felt there was a bigger picture that formed these people who could hurt others.
Dysfunctional parents, alcoholism, drugs, poverty, disability and abuse were all good reasons for this person to fuck up their life. (Taking into account, lots of us came from disfunction but manage to live life honest and within the law.)
You can allocate some portion of blame to the parents when the children are dependants but as children go out into the world, what they haven't learned at home, they normally pick up very quickly from friends and co-workers. (Unacceptable behaviour)
You could also argue if there was more family intervention in the home when these criminals were children, more learning support and education, they would be less likely to follow their parents destructive behaviour when they became adults themselves.
Or another theory, is it merely the fact that some children are so spoiled and are so used to taking from others, that they have never been taught to give back? They think that everything is there for their taking....
The problem expands for these criminals when they take others with them on their road of destruction. This of course is how they inevitably get caught. It's all very well being a ticking time bomb by themselves but when they involve another, they are now jeopardizing their secret. The secret that is their horrible personality of selfishness and greed and resentment and controlling behaviour.
And suddenly they grow a fear that their secret will be exposed to all. Now they are capable of doing anything to protect that secret which is usually at a personal cost to others.
This is where they now become almost believable in their denial. They don't flinch. They become angry, sad at the crime exposed to them, "I did this, but it wasn't my fault. I didn't know she was in there. I thought it was a burglar!"
But how can we tell for sure what the truth is? He looks like he's telling the truth. He's so sure it was an accident. He almost convinces you. Almost, but not quite. Because it just doesn't make sense what he's saying. The logical Maths do not add up.
The onus of responsibility is on the police to find plenty of evidence and then match it up to the culprit. I can see how difficult that could be and of course, there are some people that are really innocent.
It must be as hard for a police man to watch some one go down for a crime that he didn't commit, but was in the wrong place at the wrong time.
So, have I turned cheeks? Am I now starting to see through these criminals lies?
That sometimes, they are just born with self pity in their bones?
And is my empathy now to the proper victims, the families?
Yes.
I do believe that forgiveness sets a person free. Holding anger will only destroy.
But now I know in my 49 years of life, that bad things happen to good people all of the time. And because the bad people only feel sorrow for themselves, they will never feel another's pain. This sets them apart from us 'normal' people, because our conscience would never allow to willingly hurt another.
And if Pistoris could stand up in court and lie to a Judge with his beautiful blue eyes filling with tears, crying, that he didn't know that the beautiful Rena was in the toilet as he ploughed the door with bullets. Shame on you Pistoris. The least you can do is accept your responsibility.
Give the family some relief. They won't forgive you, but they will respect your honesty for allowing them to be right. They know you murdered their daughter. You need to give them that affirmation.
Jean xxx
I would have probably found him not guilty so I would make a useless judge.
I would believe his pain. Surely someone that convincing of his own sorrow and innocence couldn't kill his loved one? (Example Pistoris) Had there been no evidence, he would have surely been released.
I'd have compassion for the obvious bad start in life that formed his personality.
I felt there was a bigger picture that formed these people who could hurt others.
Dysfunctional parents, alcoholism, drugs, poverty, disability and abuse were all good reasons for this person to fuck up their life. (Taking into account, lots of us came from disfunction but manage to live life honest and within the law.)
You can allocate some portion of blame to the parents when the children are dependants but as children go out into the world, what they haven't learned at home, they normally pick up very quickly from friends and co-workers. (Unacceptable behaviour)
You could also argue if there was more family intervention in the home when these criminals were children, more learning support and education, they would be less likely to follow their parents destructive behaviour when they became adults themselves.
Or another theory, is it merely the fact that some children are so spoiled and are so used to taking from others, that they have never been taught to give back? They think that everything is there for their taking....
The problem expands for these criminals when they take others with them on their road of destruction. This of course is how they inevitably get caught. It's all very well being a ticking time bomb by themselves but when they involve another, they are now jeopardizing their secret. The secret that is their horrible personality of selfishness and greed and resentment and controlling behaviour.
And suddenly they grow a fear that their secret will be exposed to all. Now they are capable of doing anything to protect that secret which is usually at a personal cost to others.
This is where they now become almost believable in their denial. They don't flinch. They become angry, sad at the crime exposed to them, "I did this, but it wasn't my fault. I didn't know she was in there. I thought it was a burglar!"
But how can we tell for sure what the truth is? He looks like he's telling the truth. He's so sure it was an accident. He almost convinces you. Almost, but not quite. Because it just doesn't make sense what he's saying. The logical Maths do not add up.
The onus of responsibility is on the police to find plenty of evidence and then match it up to the culprit. I can see how difficult that could be and of course, there are some people that are really innocent.
It must be as hard for a police man to watch some one go down for a crime that he didn't commit, but was in the wrong place at the wrong time.
So, have I turned cheeks? Am I now starting to see through these criminals lies?
That sometimes, they are just born with self pity in their bones?
And is my empathy now to the proper victims, the families?
Yes.
I do believe that forgiveness sets a person free. Holding anger will only destroy.
But now I know in my 49 years of life, that bad things happen to good people all of the time. And because the bad people only feel sorrow for themselves, they will never feel another's pain. This sets them apart from us 'normal' people, because our conscience would never allow to willingly hurt another.
And if Pistoris could stand up in court and lie to a Judge with his beautiful blue eyes filling with tears, crying, that he didn't know that the beautiful Rena was in the toilet as he ploughed the door with bullets. Shame on you Pistoris. The least you can do is accept your responsibility.
Give the family some relief. They won't forgive you, but they will respect your honesty for allowing them to be right. They know you murdered their daughter. You need to give them that affirmation.
Jean xxx
Tuesday 12 January 2016
Is someone up there winding me up?
I have a distinct feeling that someone up there beyond the mile deep clouds is having a good ole laugh at my expense. And I have no idea why!
Ok, so I was a terrible cheeky teenager to my Dad, (to which I apologised, (Oh, I'm not too sure I did apologise actually! So maybe it is him getting his own back on me!)
If you think there is nobody upstairs or afterlife or God, just have a look at your own life. Isn't it the most difficult thing you ever had to do? You may think you're isolated in this challenging life, but I'm pretty sure you're not. Everybody must have their shite. Even poor David Bowie, (And wasn't he a true legend?) His last song and video called Lazarus is very powerful.
And, if you listened to all of his songs, he was singing his truth! Good for him. At least now he is at peace. And he left us a lot of inspiring songs to help us figure him out.
So as you know, the pressures of my life were dragging me down lately. I went and walked my dogs yesterday and in the open space I feel closer to God. I asked him for help and guidance.
Or for anybody out there reading this, whoever frees your mind from doom.
Walking in the lovely cold fresh air really helps. Ok, so I wasn't Mary Poppins when I came back from my walk but I did get a few things done in my house afterwards. And I was able to cook a meal for my family. I was able to help Yasmin with her homework and I went to bed when she went to bed at 9.30.
I was up with Yasmin at 6.30 this morning and tackled my washing and ironing before I dropped her to school and came back to walk my dogs in the fields.
I walked through the muck and let my excited dogs off their leads and prayed to God to free my mind from negatives and resentments and fill my mind with positives and gratitudes. I was also praying that they wouldn't knock me over with their powerful speed. They have the power to crush my hips or leg!
My three handsome dogs were dashing about, happy to be free. As I pray, I keep an eye out for them. Storm never strays far from me. He's my four year old grey Husky that I re-homed from a young couple who worked long hours to my house where there was constant activity. He is forever loyal.
Skye, my eight year old female red Husky who is the leader of my two year old white Husky ran off and into the road. Next thing I heard was screams and squeals of pain that I knew was coming from my white guy.
I am really not good for this. I can't see people or animals lose limbs, or blood and guts from things.
I had to go and walk towards my white dog's cries of pain.
There he was, the poor fella had scrambled back into the field to his mam, (me). I knew from 50 metres that his leg was broken badly. I could also see, with my bad eyes, that there was no visual signs of blood. That was good. I could approach him. I really couldn't be dealing with missing bits of his body. (Just to let you know, who ever hit him, never stopped! I'm not sure what kind of person does that)
I was instantly upset for the egit's pain. I had no phone on me, so I had to go out into the road to flag someone for help.
Now, I didn't look good. I was in my muddy field walking clothes, (You really can't wear your good jeans walking in Ratoath. It doesn't go.) I had my favourite hat on that holds in my unruly hair. The one with the bright pink flowers that apparently does nothing for me. And there I was, frigging crying, trying to get someone to stop. No wonder the first few drove past. Anyway, an old man stopped and then a young man in a van stopped. And they both followed me into the field to help my dog.
The poor ole creature was in such pain, we couldn't pick him up. His poor ole leg was dangling so loosely, I thought it was going to fall off. I couldn't look!
In the mean time, my other two crazy dogs were jumping up and down all of us for some answers, (Is he going to be ok?) I eventually grabbed their collars and got my poor white dog to hop along behind me in so much pain, to the kind old man's car. He obligingly struggled in to the old man's car boot who brought him to the Ratoath vets. The young man got my two other Huskies into the back of his van and dropped them safely home.
Frigging dogs.
As I went to the Vet's, I was thinking if Sully were to lose a leg, maybe it would be better if he were put down, although I knew in my heart, that he would survive with only three legs and that I would let him.
Miraculously, Sully had a break that could be fixed!
I asked the vet first of all, was he out of pain and yes, the lovely vet had given him the wonder drug, Morphine! (Don't knock it. It is the only drug that takes the pain away and I didn't want to see my little guy suffer)
Sully will be in vet hospital till Friday! It'll cost me a small fortune, but will I find the money from somewhere? Of course I will!
You know, life is like a crazy carnival.
There is always something so dangerous going on.
I would never go to the RDS fun-fare for fear of my life, but I guess I don't have to.
My life is full of dangerous roller coaster rides.
Jean xxx
Ok, so I was a terrible cheeky teenager to my Dad, (to which I apologised, (Oh, I'm not too sure I did apologise actually! So maybe it is him getting his own back on me!)
If you think there is nobody upstairs or afterlife or God, just have a look at your own life. Isn't it the most difficult thing you ever had to do? You may think you're isolated in this challenging life, but I'm pretty sure you're not. Everybody must have their shite. Even poor David Bowie, (And wasn't he a true legend?) His last song and video called Lazarus is very powerful.
And, if you listened to all of his songs, he was singing his truth! Good for him. At least now he is at peace. And he left us a lot of inspiring songs to help us figure him out.
So as you know, the pressures of my life were dragging me down lately. I went and walked my dogs yesterday and in the open space I feel closer to God. I asked him for help and guidance.
Or for anybody out there reading this, whoever frees your mind from doom.
Walking in the lovely cold fresh air really helps. Ok, so I wasn't Mary Poppins when I came back from my walk but I did get a few things done in my house afterwards. And I was able to cook a meal for my family. I was able to help Yasmin with her homework and I went to bed when she went to bed at 9.30.
I was up with Yasmin at 6.30 this morning and tackled my washing and ironing before I dropped her to school and came back to walk my dogs in the fields.
I walked through the muck and let my excited dogs off their leads and prayed to God to free my mind from negatives and resentments and fill my mind with positives and gratitudes. I was also praying that they wouldn't knock me over with their powerful speed. They have the power to crush my hips or leg!
My three handsome dogs were dashing about, happy to be free. As I pray, I keep an eye out for them. Storm never strays far from me. He's my four year old grey Husky that I re-homed from a young couple who worked long hours to my house where there was constant activity. He is forever loyal.
Skye, my eight year old female red Husky who is the leader of my two year old white Husky ran off and into the road. Next thing I heard was screams and squeals of pain that I knew was coming from my white guy.
I am really not good for this. I can't see people or animals lose limbs, or blood and guts from things.
I had to go and walk towards my white dog's cries of pain.
There he was, the poor fella had scrambled back into the field to his mam, (me). I knew from 50 metres that his leg was broken badly. I could also see, with my bad eyes, that there was no visual signs of blood. That was good. I could approach him. I really couldn't be dealing with missing bits of his body. (Just to let you know, who ever hit him, never stopped! I'm not sure what kind of person does that)
I was instantly upset for the egit's pain. I had no phone on me, so I had to go out into the road to flag someone for help.
Now, I didn't look good. I was in my muddy field walking clothes, (You really can't wear your good jeans walking in Ratoath. It doesn't go.) I had my favourite hat on that holds in my unruly hair. The one with the bright pink flowers that apparently does nothing for me. And there I was, frigging crying, trying to get someone to stop. No wonder the first few drove past. Anyway, an old man stopped and then a young man in a van stopped. And they both followed me into the field to help my dog.
The poor ole creature was in such pain, we couldn't pick him up. His poor ole leg was dangling so loosely, I thought it was going to fall off. I couldn't look!
In the mean time, my other two crazy dogs were jumping up and down all of us for some answers, (Is he going to be ok?) I eventually grabbed their collars and got my poor white dog to hop along behind me in so much pain, to the kind old man's car. He obligingly struggled in to the old man's car boot who brought him to the Ratoath vets. The young man got my two other Huskies into the back of his van and dropped them safely home.
Frigging dogs.
As I went to the Vet's, I was thinking if Sully were to lose a leg, maybe it would be better if he were put down, although I knew in my heart, that he would survive with only three legs and that I would let him.
Miraculously, Sully had a break that could be fixed!
I asked the vet first of all, was he out of pain and yes, the lovely vet had given him the wonder drug, Morphine! (Don't knock it. It is the only drug that takes the pain away and I didn't want to see my little guy suffer)
Sully will be in vet hospital till Friday! It'll cost me a small fortune, but will I find the money from somewhere? Of course I will!
You know, life is like a crazy carnival.
There is always something so dangerous going on.
I would never go to the RDS fun-fare for fear of my life, but I guess I don't have to.
My life is full of dangerous roller coaster rides.
Jean xxx
Monday 11 January 2016
Just some knowledge for all you sufferers of depression and how I get through it
I am now aware why I become depressed and I am also aware of the symptoms.
I know why there are these symptoms of fatigue, listlessness, hopelessness
I know that life's challenges sometimes sends all of these symptoms into my brain at once and my weariness lets them in
I become beaten down
I am floored
I know I have to try get up and perform my duties of living
I need a strong mind and a strong sense of belief in myself in order to not be led down this road of depression. I need to continue my brain washing of positivity to get me through this
Of course, I'm still on anti depressants and I'm sure they do their job of replacing the serotonin thats missing in my brain, but they can't protect my emotions because they are intangible
No tablet, drug or alcohol can fix them
I need to be a strong mother
My offsprings are realizing themselves that life presents horrible challenges for them also
Will my knowledge help them?
Although it won't save them and that saddens me
If I had a magic wand, I would magic me some miracles, to make things easier
But I don't
So I am going to force myself to wash my face and teeth
And I am going to force myself to walk my dogs and ask God to help me
To remind me of all the things I should be grateful for, focus on those
When I come back
I will force myself to clean my house and cook a meal
And I know that slowly these feelings will move on
Jean xxx
I know why there are these symptoms of fatigue, listlessness, hopelessness
I know that life's challenges sometimes sends all of these symptoms into my brain at once and my weariness lets them in
I become beaten down
I am floored
I know I have to try get up and perform my duties of living
I need a strong mind and a strong sense of belief in myself in order to not be led down this road of depression. I need to continue my brain washing of positivity to get me through this
Of course, I'm still on anti depressants and I'm sure they do their job of replacing the serotonin thats missing in my brain, but they can't protect my emotions because they are intangible
No tablet, drug or alcohol can fix them
I need to be a strong mother
My offsprings are realizing themselves that life presents horrible challenges for them also
Will my knowledge help them?
Although it won't save them and that saddens me
If I had a magic wand, I would magic me some miracles, to make things easier
But I don't
So I am going to force myself to wash my face and teeth
And I am going to force myself to walk my dogs and ask God to help me
To remind me of all the things I should be grateful for, focus on those
When I come back
I will force myself to clean my house and cook a meal
And I know that slowly these feelings will move on
Jean xxx
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